Distance and a friend

What a day! Friend got a good job,leaving sooner than I can imagine to start a completely new life, I miss him already! I am  very proud of him, but I cannot shake the feeling of loss. With time I will accept the reality, its a good thing he is moving out to his independence,to unleash his potential and explore new horizons. He will always be my friend, close to my heart and we can always be in touch.

The tender friendships one gives up, on parting, leave their bite on the heart, but also a curious feeling of a treasure somewhere buried.  ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Southern Mail, 1929, translated from French by Curtis Cate

Slamat Yush

A true friend unbosoms freely, advises justly, assists readily, adventures boldly, takes all patiently, defends courageously, and continues a friend unchangeably.  ~William Pennhis 

The above quote sums up our friendship. It was short, we have good memories, going out for a Krusher, him chasing me out of his room, me slapping him, him running after me, telling him he is the worst, my knocking on his door just to see him come out with that angry face, his defending me from some mean people, walking with me to get supper, sharing fish from Durban, loving my spaghetti masala, crying on my shoulder, sharing success, oh I feel so sad.

A good friend is a treasure, hold on to those, pray for them and wish them well at all times.

This is my last gift to both my friend and myself.

Response to Pain

When someone hurts you, you wanna cry? No,  don't just cry , do it with grace , for yourself not for the person that hurt you. Get a notepad and write all the things causing you pain, take it all out, all of it! You may wanna write the person a letter, do it! When you are done clip it to your diary. People who ravish at your pain are completely abnormal, you may wanna read about psychopaths for your protection. I will be putting up some links shortly, being forewarned is being forearmed!

Till next time....with lots of warm feelings....


Women do run the world you know...I run mine :)

The Grace Of Forgiveness

Forgiveness.

As a human being, when one gets hurts it is inevitable to want to fight back, when one is betrayed one thinks about filing a breach of contract case, when someone hurts us intentionally we naturally want to banish them out of our lives, and that is sensible.

We spend hours and lots of money fighting back our enemies, sometimes to even spite them. We spend a lot of time plotting revenge. When we think about how much we are hurt ,  we revisit the wound they have left on us, every time you go to avenge someone you open that wound, you feel the exact pain you felt when the enemy inflicted it. We tend to think that the enemy is happier, and gloating over us. It is not always true, of course some people are psychopaths and they ravish our pain, but till a psychopath is an abnormal person and he/she cannot change whatever you do.

We may as well spend that time on ourselves. Say a little prayer for them and indulge in your simplest pleasures, close the wound and allow it to heal.

Walking away may help. That may help you forget about the pain as you focus on other things. Do some meditation, if you cannot walk away try focusing on something positive about them and focus on yourself.

Look after yourselves***

R

Do things with ME in mind

Whatever you do because or for someone else, think twice about it. For whose sake are you doing it? What is your benefit now? benefit in the long term? What are the chances that you may end up being hurt? If you are in touch with your inner self and any of the answers you give feel wrong, Stop and do something different.
The secret of life is keep moving, whatever it is-keep moving. Doing the same thing that fail you over and over again is not moving, it is a terrible habit. Watching TV is not moving, unless you are getting something out of it. You gotta increase your good. Life is tough, and sometimes you gotta swim against the current, but who knows a dolphin might carry you along the deeper you go.  Believe that you are strong, and indeed you are, so you will make it God willing.

To embracing inner power and inherent strength*****

R

Sometime We Gotta Let Go

I learnt something I wanna share with all of you today. Sometimes life does not go as you plan it, it may seem as if it is going wrong at the moment.Accept that. Sometimes you may be amazed at how miraculous things turn out. Accept that. You may plan to be a nurse and end up marrying a king to be a housewife in style, with 4 princes and 4 princesses. That is what is meant for you. An extent of our lives is under our control, while an extent is not. It is the acceptance of this amazing balance that makes one's life worthwhile. Your past is beyond your control, your future is beyond your control. If you spend the only moment you have under control fearing the future and regretting or worrying about the past you will miss out on your own life - period! You only have the present moment in control. Take advantage of it, cherish it, work on your goals, dream large, forgive your enemies, eat the best food, take such good care of yourself, spend time with your loved one. Be at peace and relish your blessings. Sometimes you need to hit the wall to notice that that there are obstacles in every path of life, sometimes you need to be hurt to notice that only God is worth your full trust, sometimes you need to lose your wallet to notice that you need to be careful with your investment funds. We just need to look hard into these experiences to get what we want, if you cannot see the lesson now, believe that there must be a reason for your situation and one day it will show up. If you believe in a Higher Power then you know that the trees are here for your relish, the shade is here for your protection, the ocean flows for your appreciation, the birds sing for your pleasure and everything good is meant for you. If anything bad happens you know it was NOT meant for your permanence, you are here for a good course and a good ride, if your ride breaks fix it quick! and carry on. The mud is not meant for you, but bliss and peace, all the good that you can suck out of life , suck them all, if you suck enough share with your companions.

To the good life that is rightly yours and more**

R