LIfe Is Learning

I learnt one interesting thing today. "The secret to one's success is knowing oneself." It is amazing, right? It abolishes self-doubt, enhances self-confidence and there is no more need to compare oneself to another. It is the only way you can really enjoy being in your skin, do you know your favorite  latte flavor, your favorite place, your..

 simple yet powerful

invest precious time  in your self development

doing it with you always,

R

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Overcoming Addiction

I found this article awesome, please check it out! It is helpful regardless of whether you wanna break away from chocolate to shopping! Enjoy....

Overcoming Addiction

Sharpen Your Axe

I feel very rejuvenated. I have been working for 5 weeks. I did not do a lot of my varsity work during these period. Something real magical happened. I learnt a good number of things including:
how I really am
How I handle people problems
How strangers really see me
How I react with fear to things I do not understand
How I automatically turn into a victim the moment I look away from my dreams
How not doing what I want can drive me mad
How much I love change
How adaptable I am
And my personal meaning of the word relax
Also how to give in to get what I want
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I will be adding some more as I allow them to mind. Above all these I feel so empowered I think I will definitely reach my goals. I can clearly see the goodies I will get at the end of every choice I will make.

The value of a setback

At times things go so well one can feel one's head among the clouds. It is unimaginable how catastrophic a failure can be from a place so high. And when it really happens the pain is excruciating. Depending on one's level of self-development one either bends or break, the fear of losing the respect of your contemporaries, the fear of  failing again and the inevitable disappointment to those you love can be close to unbearable. In one way or another if one hangs on and walks through it all, the seemingly unbearable becomes bearable. When you reach the other end you will be refined and humbler than you were before.

Holiday

I am on varsity holiday! I have taken a job as a receptionist in my residence, oh sometimes it gets to be quite a drag but hey  I am expanding my horizon. I  work for 8 hours a day, first paying job. I fall many times, like wake up late and fall asleep when I am on duty. This means I am really moving out of my comfort zone? There are some good things I noticed about myself  too, I am persistent , I work hard plus the guests seem to be having an easy time with me  plus I won't  forget to mention that I have got no warning so far!

What is happening in your world?

Better to be busy than bored!

A friend is a treasure,

It is very painful when we lose the people we are closest to. When they enter our lives we sometimes wonder why and wish to conceal some parts of ourselves, we may often succeed in hiding our suspicion. When they walk on us, the same thing happens, we wonder why.
When people come into my life I embrace them, behold though, I am in no way perfect. I am in no way perfect and I am assured that I do the best I could do under my circumstances. I lost two of my friends that I deeply loved. I think these reasons might hold true here:

• At times I meddle too much into others' businesses.
• I am not assertive enough, I hold onto resentment and become bitter.
• Fear to lose them sufficed.
• I thought they wanted more of me than I did of them.
• I can be a bum and super selfish.

I do work on  my self development but at times the older me shows up. I cannot live on apologizing for my being, I know that  getting better is better. I do take responsibility for my behavior and I wish I could  have been...

One door has been closed, I am not sure what is gonna happen next but I know another one will open. This is an end to one chapter of my life. It feels very bitter. I wanna make it through so I shall hold on until I reach an end of another one.

To the new chapter*****....

Hella

Confession of a pity- party- a- holic!

So many things have happened when I was away, actually I was extremely busy doing that, fixing this and ruining...I did a lot of things. I had so much work from varsity I feel a bit relieved today.
Sometimes I feel like I am acting out someone I am not. I wonder if this happens to anyone else. I do things I am proud of, I also do things I regret at times. I am tired of wondering why.
Sometimes I think I should be extra nice to some people because they have lost their job, boyfriend or they broke that vase they bought on Holiday in China. But think about it, who gets to be extra nice to  me when  I have just lost my touch of grace, no one! I am not trying to say let's be ungrateful. But most of these people brought it on themselves, so they should deal with it!
I tell myself "Rosa, nobody is going to throw a party for you', and then get myself together. But when it is someone else I get them cake and ice cream,and 'throw them a pity party' , nursing their emotions, but  it never feels right! never!I learnt what causes this circle of me doing things for others, when they do not say thank you it hurts,when they pursue their own line I wonder "I helped you through that why don't  I get some credit?"-I am helping these people because I want them to say I am nice,kind and all embracing kind of goddess. I am actually trying to get their approval. This is exactly why when I don't get a pat on my shoulder it hurts. When some friends turn down my invitation for something more pressing I usually find myself saying (to myself) "you know I had to forgo 1,2 and 3 to be at her party last week! ungrateful woman!"I actually love pity parties I wonder why it had to go through all of these before I could accept it and do something about it. I doubt that I am the only person who has some kind of self- sacrificing disorder. I don't think it is gonna be easy for me to break away but I gotta be free.


I take this mask off today and declare "I QUIT". I shall let my intellect be the adult of my  life, guide me and lead me, show me how to deal with my emotions. Emotions come and go, like waves, one will always follow another . I have learnt mindfulness and meditation some time back and now I summon them to my service.

Said so much I gotta stop or get an editor to go over it again....

sweet  sweet

From bummed to better

Yay! I am back on my feet my people.

I was really feeling foggy and down. Guess what I did? I did everything as normal but took extra time in solitude. I got in touch with myself, reviewed my goals, thought about ugly Betty, my family, my friends, I THOUGHT ABOUT THE BIGGER PICTURE. I worked extra hard and did those things I sometimes dread to do. Oh I missed my belly dancing!!!!!No regret though, nobody would have liked to see  me with a  gloomy face trying to dance what I don't know off. I put up my pictures to share my extraordinary moments with you. I am just an ordinary person forging out my ordinary life, it may be extraordinary now and then but at the end we all get back to normal-but I do it in an extraordinary way. I do it the Rosabelle way, in my own style. Every piece of work I do is thus my very own portrait.

Find your style and live it!  *Don't be arrogant, just let yourself be at your best*


Radiating love to all of you...

Today

I am really experiencing the blues....

Loving me

If you need someone who can

•  love you completely 
• Admire all your aspects
• Understand you for you
• Spend any moment with you
• Just be there for you

First look in the mirror!

No matter what I hear or see, no matter who I hate to or love, no matter what I choose or discard ,one person I am always gonna end up with is ME.

No matter what the world say to me,whether they pat me on the shoulder or look at me through  sides of  their eyes,there is one judge I will never miss, that judge is ME.

It is when I am in love with  myself that I do not care whether you love me or not. I do my fellows good out of an abundant heart, expecting nothing in return.

I live and let live!

It is only when I love myself completely that I can accept  anything out of me as out of my control, and find no need to manipulate another to do my will at my whim.

It is when I am so comfortable with myself that I can happily invite you into my life, to share all my wonderful aspects.

It is my primary duty to do first good to myself, how can I love you if I cannot love myself? 

Radiating love to all of you...

  

living now!

I decided to indulge in a divine piece of a cake with a friend. It was a joint decision! We ordered the cake and I started munching on it as soon as it was delivered-it was really nice. I was enjoying every bite of it until my friend started mumbling about the possibility of diabetes,gaining weight, where is self-control, and all of those facts that could make me feel like loathing myself.
She was right!
But wait a minute...she decided to have the cake with me, I was happy with my decision and enjoying every moment of it. My friend was failing to live in the moment and making me miserable!
We had ample time to make our decision and we did decide to have something sweet at the end,so....

*Think before you act, if you choose to be impulsive then be prepared to deal with it, every moment counts, it's either you use it or waste it, never again.*

Happiness

I went to the cinema to watch the coolest movie of the time, I came back feeling like something more.
I went to have ice cream to fill the void.
I called on my friends to comfort me.
I slept expecting to be shown some light, maybe in my dreams.

Nothing happened and the sadness prevailed.

I allowed myself to do something- call in my friends who needed me more, call my sister and ask how she was doing, expected the best and miracles in my own life.I did what i could in my state, sought more talents in my life, did many new things, one at a time.
I stopped advertising my problems as a burden and bore them all, they are always there from yesterdays. I noticed that writing them down meant that when I need to solve a  problem today I don't have to look much but turn a few pages back for my own advice- my own well of experience. It is the imperfections, the little things that we often  miss that can make us feel as unique and Real as we are.

If you feel sad-do something, not to remove the sadness but to shift your focus. If you love pity parties like some of us-write it down for some time later and use  your  emotional emergency kit (something simple, but you love and enjoy,to remind you that there is bliss right now )and focus on something else as small or as big as you like. Help someone who may need you more, use your smarts and talents. Seek help from people who can really help-not from your naturally lean friend when you want to lose weight(avoid advertising) but the one who lost some, that lady at the gym...

Secret: *Allow yourself to shift your focus and sooner or later your emotions will follow.*
          
Radiating love to all of you...

The diamond in our emotions.

Sometimes it just feels so hard.
Sometimes it feels too heavy.
Sometimes it feels like it will be impossible.
Sometimes it feels okay.
Sometimes it feels fine.
Sometimes it feels just like it is.


" But the only time your inner epicure will get out of hand and start pilaging chocolate shops and picking up travelling salesman is when you deny her until she cannot take it anymore."

You also have an inner chaperone to help you live successfully,showing you "peak experience" and "downhill from here"

The next time you feel unsure about what you really want-clouded by all these feelings, lie back and let your inner epicure and inner chaperone guide you. Trust yourself. you need no recipe on how to move your leg.

Radiating love to all of you....

Being My Own Lady

I am quite young, studying in the University of Cape Town. I learnt a few life lessons I wanna share with you my wonderful readers, but most importantly I am gonna learn from you also. Looking forward to a wonderful time with you,

"Your duty in life is to give-love, time , energy, your smarts and all your wonderful aspects, not to desire much. You are too good for anything less-to be a petitioner or a recipient